We all Need a Few Fierce Lady Friends
“Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.”
Let’s be honest. Being a woman can be hard. The number of roles we try to balance- wife, sister, mother, lover, caregiver, worker, CHO (Chief Household Officer) and the number of people in our lives we care for can be exhausting. And there will be times we experience criticism from other women. Those that should understand us because they are right there in the same trenches as us can sometimes be our biggest antagonists.
This is why it is so important for women to find a community of other women who will support them, encourage them, lift them up and be honest with them.
Isn’t it true that it’s better to have a few friends that would protect you, laugh with you, and cry with you than a whole room full of people who disappear when life gets hard. Being honest and having friends to talk to is so important. Someone who understands you.
Someone who really does believe you are capable, and amazing. The ones who can see the light within you even on your darkest days, they see the light shining through. And while most of us won’t have to consider laying down our lives for our friends, you likely make sacrifices for your friends and them for you. Maybe you dropped everything to go help them when they were sick or kept their kids for the weekend so they could recharge and get a night away with their husband.
We all need fierce lady friends.
Fierce lady friends are not a dime a dozen, they are those special women who show up in our lives, and it feels a bit like we’ve always known them. Maybe it’s because we were always meant to meet them, I don’t know. Or maybe it’s because its a real connection, there is nothing pretend, or fake, or luke-warm about it. They are bright red friendships.
The girls you talk to that lift you up- after a hard day, the ones that tell you to reach for the stars and remind you within you is fierceness and you can survive anything life sends your way. Don’t settle for half-assed friendships, each one of us deserves so much more from our friendships. And don’t assume because someone has been your friend the longest that they are a fierce lady friend. Sometimes, they may be a friend for a season but they may not be there forever.
You’ll know when you’ve gained a fierce lady friend. She roars louder than anyone else to protect you, and cheers for you every chance she gets. She is so proud of you she can’t help but tell people about you. Kinda like a momma bear would do. And don’t forget to be a fierce lady friend to the women who you admire, care about, and love like a sister.
You know those friends that aren’t afraid of what those around you will think. The ones that will be silly with you and wear funny outfits or hats if that’s the plan. The ones that don’t care if you laugh so hard you spit out your drink or act like a fool sometimes. And the ones that make you flash back to feeling 15 again on girls night. The evenings spent with them bring you to tears, and maybe make it hard to breathe from laughing so much, and if you’re already a mom you might even have tinkled just a little from the hysteria.
Fierce lady friends see that as part of your endearing personality, not as something to tame.
Find the friends that will roar with you not try to cage your inner awesome.
Support those women because life is hard enough and we all need a strong tribe to get through it. Find a tribe of fierce lady friends, or lady warriors because nothing can stop a tribe of connected, loving, protective women. When you find yours hug them tight and tell them you appreciate them. And know I’ll always be a fierce lady friend to all of you. And don’t forget be kind to all the women out their not just your tribe because all women need support even if they aren’t your fierce lady friend, they may not have found theirs yet.
Your beautiful friend,
The best kind of friendships are fierce lady friendships where you aggressively believe in each other, defend each other, and think the other deserves the world.